Yo Bossip I gotta situation. Been seeing this girl for almost 3 months now and she told me from the door she wasn’t trying to get down until she got to know me. She’s a pretty girl and she’s down to earth and gotta good head on her shoulders so I was cool with that. A couple days ago I finally get the chance to be with her and I was crushed ’cause baby girl don’t have no walls. I couldn’t feel nothing…she has no walls!!! What I want to know is there something she could do about that or can it be fixed??? She doesn’t even have kids yet so what’s really good? I like this girl and even if I don’t end up with her, she need to do something for the next cat. You feel me?
Ok . . . my two cents. Honestly, after reading this, my first thought was: Does she really have "no walls"? Is she really the problem or is he the problem??? The columnist offers a few suggestions to help with the "situation". She could do Kegel exercises, use some "tightening" creams or better yet, have vaginal rejunvenuation surgery. WTF! I am thinking he's a little on the small side which made it seem like she didn't have "no walls". I'm just saying . . .
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Mary J Blige - I Can See In Color (Original Song From The Movie "Preciou...
This song is amazing. It touches my soul. Beautiful lyrics . . .
It took a long time to get to this place
and now that im here, no one can ever erase-
the joy that i feel..way down deep inside
the love that i have for me will never never die ie ie
i can see in color
the first sign of spring, the rose buds are blooming
i got a new song new song to sing
life looks so amazing i never knew that it could open my eyes and for the very very first time i can see in color
mmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmm
everything looks beautiful sky so baby blue
im anxious to know where the rest of this road will gooo
if april showers bring flowers then i need i need more rain
to quench the drought in me so rain on me rain on me
i can see in color
the first sign of spring the rose buds are blooming
i got a new song a new song to sing hey-ey life looks so amazing i never knew that it could open my open my eyes
and for the very very first time i can see
i can see in color yes the first sign the first signs of spring
it looks so beautiful to me i can see i can see i can see i can see in color
sky so baby blue so baby blue
i can see i can see
i can see in color the first sign of spring a
nd now the rose buds are blooming i can touch them i can feel them ima hold them forever and ever and ever and ever
and ever ima hold em ever ima be forever
i can see i can see i can see i can see i can see i can seeeeeeeee yeah
i can see see in color, color color color
its clear
Mary J. Blige
Friday, June 25, 2010
If I Could
If I could take away all of your pain and make you whole again
Would you give me the chance to be more than just a friend
If I could prove to you that my feelings are deep and true
Would you let me spoil, pamper and appreciate you
If I could look into your eyes and see the secrets of your soul
Would you trust that those secrets would remain untold
If I could go back in time and change all of the bad things in your past
Would you tear down that wall and remove that mask
If I could love you like you have never been loved before
Would you open your heart to me like an open door
If I could promise to always be there and catch you when you fall
Would you give me the opportunity to give you my all
If I could do anything in the world to help your light shine
Would you be willing to forever be mine
My True Essence
Would you give me the chance to be more than just a friend
If I could prove to you that my feelings are deep and true
Would you let me spoil, pamper and appreciate you
If I could look into your eyes and see the secrets of your soul
Would you trust that those secrets would remain untold
If I could go back in time and change all of the bad things in your past
Would you tear down that wall and remove that mask
If I could love you like you have never been loved before
Would you open your heart to me like an open door
If I could promise to always be there and catch you when you fall
Would you give me the opportunity to give you my all
If I could do anything in the world to help your light shine
Would you be willing to forever be mine
My True Essence
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Life Lessons
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don't ask, you don't get.
49. Yield.
50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don't ask, you don't get.
49. Yield.
50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Question Of The Day: Are You Wifey Material???
Saw this articles on Bossip.com. Intersting . . . True or not true?
Most women today would consider themselves wifey material, but the only problem is… They’re S-I-N-G-L-E!!! Studies have shown that black men like exploring other options therefore leaving single black women that only want to date single black men… Up Sh*t Creek!!! So, maybe the question isn’t are you wifey material, the question probably should be what is a man looking for when he’s trying to find wifey!!!
5 Things Men Look for in a Wifey
1. Assess her personality. This means her personal characteristics, emotions, style and expressions. Her perspective on the world around her, combined with her level of self-esteem, can speak volumes about the type of life partner and future parent she will be.
2. Know how attracted you are to her. Physical and sexual attraction can mean different things to different people. To some, romance and intimacy are key, while others prefer more active and kinky activities to really make them feel attracted to their partner. It’s important that your attraction and chemistry are mutual, and sustainable for years to come as a married couple.
3. Consider her level of intelligence. Finding a mate mutually matched near your level of intelligence is important to compatibility and having meaningful conversations as a couple. How she observes the world, either casually or aggressively, her level of education, sense of humor, skills, hobbies and conversation style are all important elements of this assessment.
4. Determine how she handles money. Money matters affect everyone, and finances are a key factor in the success of a marriage. Pay attention to spending style, lifestyle, professional ambitions and financial goals when determining your compatibility when it comes to spending and saving.
5. Know her values and compare them with yours. Spiritual values don’t necessarily mean affiliation with a religion but rather a general belief in a reason and purpose for being here. Other values to consider include those involved with family, stability, purpose, religion, optimism, honesty and integrity.
These 5 things are not much for any woman to do, but lets be honest, there are some women who are delusional enough to think they are assets, when they usually turn out to be major liabilities and the same thing goes for men. A woman shouldn’t look at a man’s wallet and say “He’s the one for me,” because money can’t hold you at night.
So… ARE YOU REALLY WIFEY MATERIAL or DO YOU HAVE SOME WORK TO DO???
Most women today would consider themselves wifey material, but the only problem is… They’re S-I-N-G-L-E!!! Studies have shown that black men like exploring other options therefore leaving single black women that only want to date single black men… Up Sh*t Creek!!! So, maybe the question isn’t are you wifey material, the question probably should be what is a man looking for when he’s trying to find wifey!!!
5 Things Men Look for in a Wifey
1. Assess her personality. This means her personal characteristics, emotions, style and expressions. Her perspective on the world around her, combined with her level of self-esteem, can speak volumes about the type of life partner and future parent she will be.
2. Know how attracted you are to her. Physical and sexual attraction can mean different things to different people. To some, romance and intimacy are key, while others prefer more active and kinky activities to really make them feel attracted to their partner. It’s important that your attraction and chemistry are mutual, and sustainable for years to come as a married couple.
3. Consider her level of intelligence. Finding a mate mutually matched near your level of intelligence is important to compatibility and having meaningful conversations as a couple. How she observes the world, either casually or aggressively, her level of education, sense of humor, skills, hobbies and conversation style are all important elements of this assessment.
4. Determine how she handles money. Money matters affect everyone, and finances are a key factor in the success of a marriage. Pay attention to spending style, lifestyle, professional ambitions and financial goals when determining your compatibility when it comes to spending and saving.
5. Know her values and compare them with yours. Spiritual values don’t necessarily mean affiliation with a religion but rather a general belief in a reason and purpose for being here. Other values to consider include those involved with family, stability, purpose, religion, optimism, honesty and integrity.
These 5 things are not much for any woman to do, but lets be honest, there are some women who are delusional enough to think they are assets, when they usually turn out to be major liabilities and the same thing goes for men. A woman shouldn’t look at a man’s wallet and say “He’s the one for me,” because money can’t hold you at night.
So… ARE YOU REALLY WIFEY MATERIAL or DO YOU HAVE SOME WORK TO DO???
Sunday, June 13, 2010
What Makes Good Sex (Essence Style)
Recently, I read another blogger’s post entitled “What Makes Good Sex”. Single Black Man in NoVA: Shawn's Perspective: What Makes Great Sex? ......." It was written from a guy’s perspective and I found it to be very informative and interesting. So interesting that it motivated me to think about what makes good sex to me. I know that everyone is different so what makes good sex to me may not make good sex to another person. Anywho here is my list.
1. There has to be a connection there. Some type of chemistry the makes you physically attracted to the person.
2. The setting is very important. Candles, scents and music are a very nice touch.
3. Excellent foreplay. This should actually have been happening long before you even make it to the bedroom. Sexy text messages or notes. Maybe a little phone sex. The set up to what’s to happen later.
4. The guy needs to be confident in his game. Bringing it like he is sure of his self and knows he can put it down. There is nothing worst than a timid man in the bedroom.
5. Unhibited. Being open minded and willing to try new things and positions.
6. The main goal should be to satisfy your partner.
7. Good communication. Being able to say what you want, what you like, don’t like, etc.
8. Toys and movies are good enhancers.Some men have a problem with toys. What is that about?
I could name a few more but I think I have covered the major stuff. After comparing my list to his list, I realize that they are a lot alike. Hmmmmmm.
1. There has to be a connection there. Some type of chemistry the makes you physically attracted to the person.
2. The setting is very important. Candles, scents and music are a very nice touch.
3. Excellent foreplay. This should actually have been happening long before you even make it to the bedroom. Sexy text messages or notes. Maybe a little phone sex. The set up to what’s to happen later.
4. The guy needs to be confident in his game. Bringing it like he is sure of his self and knows he can put it down. There is nothing worst than a timid man in the bedroom.
5. Unhibited. Being open minded and willing to try new things and positions.
6. The main goal should be to satisfy your partner.
7. Good communication. Being able to say what you want, what you like, don’t like, etc.
8. Toys and movies are good enhancers.Some men have a problem with toys. What is that about?
I could name a few more but I think I have covered the major stuff. After comparing my list to his list, I realize that they are a lot alike. Hmmmmmm.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
My Journey
My eyes have seen things so awful I can’t describe or explain
My ears have heard the screams of those crying out in pain
My mouth has called out His name when I have been in the storm
My heart has been broken but yet is still caring and warm
I have been humbled by some of the hard knocks of life
I have been fighting for those people others call lowlife
I have been down to the valley and lived among the poor
I have been awaken in the middle of the night by strangers pounding on my door
I have been following my calling of being a servant for the Man above
I have been out in the streets mentoring, spreading His love
I have been willing to give up my worldly possessions to help someone in need
I have been blessed to be able to perform these wonderful deeds
My eyes have seen Him work many miracles every day
My ears have heard the peoples' words as they kneel and pray
My mouth has called on Him time and time again
My heart has been touched by those I’m proud to have as friends
My True Essence
My ears have heard the screams of those crying out in pain
My mouth has called out His name when I have been in the storm
My heart has been broken but yet is still caring and warm
I have been humbled by some of the hard knocks of life
I have been fighting for those people others call lowlife
I have been down to the valley and lived among the poor
I have been awaken in the middle of the night by strangers pounding on my door
I have been following my calling of being a servant for the Man above
I have been out in the streets mentoring, spreading His love
I have been willing to give up my worldly possessions to help someone in need
I have been blessed to be able to perform these wonderful deeds
My eyes have seen Him work many miracles every day
My ears have heard the peoples' words as they kneel and pray
My mouth has called on Him time and time again
My heart has been touched by those I’m proud to have as friends
My True Essence
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Beautiful Black Queen
We are adored by all men and envied by women who want to be like us
We know hope, faith and trust in each other and our families is a must
We trust in God to guide and protect us from harm that comes our way
So to stay strong and focused, we pray and we pray and we pray
We are a very emotional, sexual and sensual kind of creature
Wide hips and gorgeous full lips are our best feature
We are naturally blessed with the things many people pay big money for
These traits keep our men wanting us and coming back for more
We are the heart and soul of our family, the glue that holds it together
We are caring and always giving our all to everything whether
It’s being a mother, wife or friend while holding down a successful career
Tackling each task with honor like a soldier who has no fear
They say we are sometimes too sassy and independent for our own good
So some brothers look for love elsewhere when they know they should
Be loving, building and creating with us a life like a dream
But eventually they come back because no one can replace their beautiful black queen
My True Essence
We know hope, faith and trust in each other and our families is a must
We trust in God to guide and protect us from harm that comes our way
So to stay strong and focused, we pray and we pray and we pray
We are a very emotional, sexual and sensual kind of creature
Wide hips and gorgeous full lips are our best feature
We are naturally blessed with the things many people pay big money for
These traits keep our men wanting us and coming back for more
We are the heart and soul of our family, the glue that holds it together
We are caring and always giving our all to everything whether
It’s being a mother, wife or friend while holding down a successful career
Tackling each task with honor like a soldier who has no fear
They say we are sometimes too sassy and independent for our own good
So some brothers look for love elsewhere when they know they should
Be loving, building and creating with us a life like a dream
But eventually they come back because no one can replace their beautiful black queen
My True Essence
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Internet Love
I’m late so I’m rushing. Hurrying. Trying to get there on time
Going to meet this mysterious man I’ve been chatting with online
I usually don’t do the internet thing but I decided to throw caution to the wind
If we don’t hit it off, I may at least have a new friend
I took extra time to get ready because it’s imperative that I look my best
While in the car driving, I’m thinking, wondering if he will pass my test
You know the test when you confirm all the things he said are true
To make sure he’s real, sincere and has not been lying to you
I’m excited yet a little nervous because I don’t know what’s waiting for me
Will he be everything that I imagine and want him to be
As I arrive at the meeting spot, my heart starts to pound
I stand there for a minute just looking around
Looking for the man who has captured my attention from many miles away
I can’t decide if I should make a run for it or sit down and stay
As I am searching, I turn to see this gorgeous hunk of man
Walking towards me with a rose in his hand, it's a part of our plan
At that moment, I smile and began to thank God above
For sending me someone that I hope to one day love
My True Essence
Going to meet this mysterious man I’ve been chatting with online
I usually don’t do the internet thing but I decided to throw caution to the wind
If we don’t hit it off, I may at least have a new friend
I took extra time to get ready because it’s imperative that I look my best
While in the car driving, I’m thinking, wondering if he will pass my test
You know the test when you confirm all the things he said are true
To make sure he’s real, sincere and has not been lying to you
I’m excited yet a little nervous because I don’t know what’s waiting for me
Will he be everything that I imagine and want him to be
As I arrive at the meeting spot, my heart starts to pound
I stand there for a minute just looking around
Looking for the man who has captured my attention from many miles away
I can’t decide if I should make a run for it or sit down and stay
As I am searching, I turn to see this gorgeous hunk of man
Walking towards me with a rose in his hand, it's a part of our plan
At that moment, I smile and began to thank God above
For sending me someone that I hope to one day love
My True Essence
Trip
I want to take a trip to a special exotic place far away
A place where the food is wonderful and the music makes me sway
To the mellow sounds of the jazz band doing their thing
Sounds so good to me makes me wish I could sing
The island is unbelievable, a mini paradise offering only the best
Of entertainment, luxury, fun and even some much needed rest
The view is so breathtaking it deserves to be on the cover of a magazine
By far, one of the most incredible sites I have ever seen
At the beginning of the day, the sun rises and shines so bright
Yet the moon’s glow on the water can only be seen at night
The ocean is like magic, clear and crystal blue
If you listen carefully, you can hear the waves singing to you
I want to take a walk on the beach with my sandals in my hand
Striding slowly and barefoot on the hot moist sand
Taking deep breaths, enjoying the clean and freshness of the air
Loving the feel of the gentle breeze blowing through my hair
At night, I want to sit on the deck with my wrap and a fruity drink
Allow myself to just sit still, calm my nerves and think
Pull out my favorite journal and good writing pen
Put into words the things I’ve done and places I’ve been
I can’t wait to take my trip, get away and be me
Forget my cares for just a little while and be free
My True Essence
A place where the food is wonderful and the music makes me sway
To the mellow sounds of the jazz band doing their thing
Sounds so good to me makes me wish I could sing
The island is unbelievable, a mini paradise offering only the best
Of entertainment, luxury, fun and even some much needed rest
The view is so breathtaking it deserves to be on the cover of a magazine
By far, one of the most incredible sites I have ever seen
At the beginning of the day, the sun rises and shines so bright
Yet the moon’s glow on the water can only be seen at night
The ocean is like magic, clear and crystal blue
If you listen carefully, you can hear the waves singing to you
I want to take a walk on the beach with my sandals in my hand
Striding slowly and barefoot on the hot moist sand
Taking deep breaths, enjoying the clean and freshness of the air
Loving the feel of the gentle breeze blowing through my hair
At night, I want to sit on the deck with my wrap and a fruity drink
Allow myself to just sit still, calm my nerves and think
Pull out my favorite journal and good writing pen
Put into words the things I’ve done and places I’ve been
I can’t wait to take my trip, get away and be me
Forget my cares for just a little while and be free
My True Essence
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