I know. I know. Everybody thinks they are the bomb (including me) be it at home, work or wherever. Of course, most men think they are laying the best pipe ever. Most women think they are the best thing in the bedroom since the mattress was created. Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! But really, outside of the bedroom, what makes you so special?
Peace and Blessings,
My True Essence
Friday, January 16, 2009
Is It Really that Important? (Sex, Size, Etc.)
Several months ago, I got a call from a very good friend of mine telling me about this wonderful man she met. She was very excited about him. In all of the years I have known her, she has only gotten excited about one other guy that I can think of. Anyway, she goes on to tell me that they have been seeing each other for a couple of months. He is very nice, articulate, well traveled, owns his own business and two houses. He has grown kids that are on their own, doing their own thing. They have a lot in common and seem to want the same things in life. He takes her to dinner, different events, buys her flowers, cooks for her etc. Doing all of the things she likes. At this point, they were not intimate with each other. She stressed to me how she wanted to wait to get to know him better first before going that route. I told her how happy I was that she found someone she really liked and enjoyed being with.
Fast forward . . . I recently called her to wish her a Happy New Year and to see how things were going. When I asked her about him, I knew something had changed because she didn’t have that excitement in her voice that she usually has when talking about him. Here is how the conversation went:
Me: How are things with your boy?
Friend: Alright. Nothing special.
Me: Oh. Sounds like trouble in paradise. The last time we talked (which was only a few weeks ago) things were going well. What happened?
Friend: Girl! He had a small d***!
Me: *silence*
Friend: You know I don’t do small d**** so I cut him back.
Me: But I thought you really liked him and thought he had potential to be the one. Did he make up for it in other areas? Wicked tongue or something? Even though it was small, did he know how to work it at least?
Friend: He was ok but it was just small and I told you I don’t do small d****.
This conversation really got me thinking. Well we all know that good men are hard to find. I do believe they are out there though. Now, she has found one that has so much going for him. Someone that really cared about her and did many things to show her how much. Most importantly, someone she really, really liked him. (Which is rare for her because she finds something wrong with every guy). From my understanding, his other bedroom skills are on point. She breaks up with him because his d*** is small!! Now, she is alone and miserable again.
Everyone likes what they like so to each his own. However, is size really that important? Important enough that you would rather overlook all of the other good qualities and be alone. What if you meet the guy with a big dick who treats you like crap and has a whole lot of drama? Do you stay with him because it’s big? For the men, if the woman’s bedroom skills are lacking but everything else is on point, do you break up with her or stay? Any thoughts?
Peace and Blessings.
My True Essence
Fast forward . . . I recently called her to wish her a Happy New Year and to see how things were going. When I asked her about him, I knew something had changed because she didn’t have that excitement in her voice that she usually has when talking about him. Here is how the conversation went:
Me: How are things with your boy?
Friend: Alright. Nothing special.
Me: Oh. Sounds like trouble in paradise. The last time we talked (which was only a few weeks ago) things were going well. What happened?
Friend: Girl! He had a small d***!
Me: *silence*
Friend: You know I don’t do small d**** so I cut him back.
Me: But I thought you really liked him and thought he had potential to be the one. Did he make up for it in other areas? Wicked tongue or something? Even though it was small, did he know how to work it at least?
Friend: He was ok but it was just small and I told you I don’t do small d****.
This conversation really got me thinking. Well we all know that good men are hard to find. I do believe they are out there though. Now, she has found one that has so much going for him. Someone that really cared about her and did many things to show her how much. Most importantly, someone she really, really liked him. (Which is rare for her because she finds something wrong with every guy). From my understanding, his other bedroom skills are on point. She breaks up with him because his d*** is small!! Now, she is alone and miserable again.
Everyone likes what they like so to each his own. However, is size really that important? Important enough that you would rather overlook all of the other good qualities and be alone. What if you meet the guy with a big dick who treats you like crap and has a whole lot of drama? Do you stay with him because it’s big? For the men, if the woman’s bedroom skills are lacking but everything else is on point, do you break up with her or stay? Any thoughts?
Peace and Blessings.
My True Essence
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
A blast from the past!!
Music has changed so much today. They don't make music like they used to. I may be giving away my age here but does anyone remember this song?
Oh man!! The good ole days!!
Peace and Blessings.
My True Essence
Oh man!! The good ole days!!
Peace and Blessings.
My True Essence
Monday, December 29, 2008
Soul Mates! Do They Really Exist?
I have spent the last month or so visiting various websites, reading different blogs. It is very interesting to read the stories and adventures of many different people, as well as, others comments to their adventures and stories. Even though everyone is different with their own thing going on, it appears that one of the most commons goals/priorities/dreams of many bloggers for 2009 is to find love. Love meaning that someone special to share the rest of their life with. Someone to start a family and grow old with. That someone who gets them. Even find their soul mate maybe . . . if there is such a thing.
The Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary definition of a soul mate is a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament. I, being the hopeless romantic that I am, believe soul mates do exist. I believe a soul mate is the person that you are completely in tuned with. Someone that brings out the best in you. The one that completes you in every way. I believe that everyone has a soul mate (maybe even more than one) but may not ever meet them in their lifetime. For those few individuals fortunate enough to find their soul mate, the majority of them, for whatever reason, are not together. Why? This remains a mystery.
Am I the only believer? What are you thoughts on soul mates? Do you think they exit? Can you have more than one? If you have met your soul mate, are you together now?
Peace and Blessings.
My True Essence
The Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary definition of a soul mate is a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament. I, being the hopeless romantic that I am, believe soul mates do exist. I believe a soul mate is the person that you are completely in tuned with. Someone that brings out the best in you. The one that completes you in every way. I believe that everyone has a soul mate (maybe even more than one) but may not ever meet them in their lifetime. For those few individuals fortunate enough to find their soul mate, the majority of them, for whatever reason, are not together. Why? This remains a mystery.
Am I the only believer? What are you thoughts on soul mates? Do you think they exit? Can you have more than one? If you have met your soul mate, are you together now?
Peace and Blessings.
My True Essence
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